We spend a lot of energy on judgment. Judging others, feeling judged. Some of us make it our life’s work. Judgment rarely serves us well, unless we use it as a learning tool, so here is something that may surprise you:
When we judge by others, we are really covering our own gaps.
Take a moment to think about what consistently sets you off about other people. Try completing this sentence: I can’t stand people who…
…are inconsiderate. Where do you see yourself as lacking in this area?
…think I am too young/old to do this job. Maybe you are the one who thinks you are too young/old.
…think they are better than others. Do you harbor secret thoughts of superiority – or inferiority?
…are really assertive. Maybe you wish you could be a little more assertive yourself.
…don’t respect me. Perhaps you don’t respect yourself.
Once you transfer this energy of outward judgment into accepting or improving yourself, you’ll notice something amazing! The less you negatively judge yourself, the less you will judge others and the less you will feel judged by others. Maybe there is really something to that Bible scripture, “Judge not, that ye be not judged“
But don’t take my word on it…judge for yourself.
For tips on how to identify and change your inner critic, read Mirror…Mirror.
